Recently I went to a restaurant with some friends. After eating, we came out to meet a monsoon. When we arrived there was no rain—but when we came out, it was pouring.
The people coming out of the restaurant were shocked. They were complaining, being overly dramatic, and running around in panic.
I, on the other hand, had locked eyes with a little kid that was with us. We had both been eyeing a big rain puddle—one that looked perfect for jumping in.
The little kid’s eyes lit up with excitement. He saw all the possibilities. He saw the fun that was about to happen. He wasn’t worried about wet clothes. Or about getting the car seats wet. He simply looked at the moment…and celebrated.
We both ended up with soaking wet shoes and clothes. But we were the only ones who left extremely happy AND we created a memory for a lifetime.
Don’t Complain about the Rain
Sometimes I wonder at what age a little kid’s playfulness begins to evaporate. For some reason, it takes such a HUGE effort for adults to play.
They don’t want to eat a dessert first. They don’t want to jump in rain puddles. They don’t want to take a bad situation and see the good in it, the part worthy to be celebrated.
Every night on the news, we see horrifying images and stories of war. People literally running and fighting for their lives, using all their life effort just to make sure they have food and water.
And then we stop to complain about the rain. We have a mental and emotional breakdown over a late plane at the airport. Or a delay on the highway.
Are you kidding me?
There is enough trauma in life without adding drama.
It’s time to stop the complaining…and start celebrating.
You have too much to celebrate. You can’t seriously be complaining about a little bit of rain.
It all comes down to how you look at life: You can adopt a grateful view that makes you feel incredible about life’s possibilities. Or you can adopt the toxic “complainer” attitude that leaves you unfulfilled, frustrated, and annoyed at 65% of what happens to you.
Hold Yourself to the Same Standards as You Hold Children
If your children were complaining all the time…you would punish them.
If there were an “adult” over the adults—you’d see a lot more adult timeouts. The adults would have to answer questions like, “What are you thinking? Why are you acting like this?”
Because these are the exact same questions we ask of little kids when they complain and throw tantrums.
If you want to mature and grow up—then mature and grow up. You need to counsel yourself with the same instruction that you would give a little kid.
Good emotional control will not only serve you at the ticket counter at the airport, but it will serve you well in the boardroom as you take your seat of responsibility of guiding major companies… and even countries.
How to Turn Your Frustration into Celebration
Let’s say you leave a restaurant tomorrow—and walk into a torrential downpour. Or maybe your flight gets delayed a couple hours, leaving you to wait. You have a couple options: You can complain, dramatize, and cry about it…OR, you can find a way to create a moment worth celebrating.
You just have to learn how to see this unexpected time as an advantage. This time is your surprising gift today. Now you can do the most important things that you haven’t had time to do. That IS the gift.
Here are three things you could do to invest the time wisely:
1. Read. If you got a smart phone or an iPad you should have tons of reading material with you. Start reading.
2. Think. Write your thoughts down. Type your thoughts down. Complete the to do list. Add to your bucket list. Act as if you did have a solution to that problem that’s been gnawing at your brain for a long time. There is one, you know…
3 Walk. That’s right, just simply start walking. From one gate to the other. Up and down the aisles of the store. Watch people. Get in a little bit of exercise to calm you down. This is yoga and Pilates in motion. Do something to let off the emotional steam. This is the pressure cooker of your mind slowly releasing the steam.
Look how easy that was. Now you are being productive. Now you’ve turned something bad into something good. Now you can celebrate your downtime instead of complaining. Now smile. :-)
Question: What do YOU do when you are inconvenienced? How can you turn those times into something worthy to be celebrated?