I talk to people all the time who are dissatisfied with where they are in life.
They’re not talking about their career path, salary, or level of fulfillment—they’re talking about their physical location, the place where they live.
It’s too cold.
It’s too hot.
Real estate is too expensive.
There’s nothing interesting going on here.
I can’t meet anyone.
It just doesn’t feel like home.
If you find yourself saying any of those things, listen:
You think you are dissatisfied with life because of where you are.
You are wrong—you are dissatisfied with life because of who you are.
You are your most immediate environment. Not your surroundings.
Newsflash: The grass may very well be greener on the other side. You, however, will remain the same.
The people may be different. The place may be different. The weather may be different. At your core, you will still be you.
It is up to you to ask yourself whether that will be a good thing or a bad thing.
The Counterintuitive Secret to Changing Your Environment
We’ve already established that the one constant no matter where you go is yourself. So it’s easy to see that you must change yourself first if you truly want to change your environment.
But here’s the counterintuitive part: To change yourself, you must start by doing one thing before all others…stop thinking about yourself.
The secret to changing yourself starts with thinking about how you can serve those around you.
What needs can you meet for them?
What small task can you fulfill on a daily basis to positively impact their lives?
What seems to be missing?
The answers to those questions will be many. Make a list. Nothing is too little or too big to include. It might look like this:
- Smile. Be an example of positivity.
- Clean something that needs cleaning. It doesn’t have to belong to me.
- Offer my coworker whose car is in the shop a ride to work.
- Find a way to help make the park down the road a safer place for kids to play.
- Adopt a dog that needs a home.
When you start consistently adding to this list and then acting on the items one at a time, you will begin to notice a pattern.
The thought of certain activities will excite you. Acting on them will energize you. The thought of them will get you out of bed early and keep you up late at night.
These are the things that will help you discover your passion. Once you discover that—slowly but surely, you will begin to change. And so will your environment.
Where to Go from Here
If you find yourself in this dilemma, do something about it.
It is within your control. It is simply a decision that must be acted on. Never ever take a hopeless position. Always own the situation.
Do not put this off. You are reading this now for a reason. Act like it matters. It does.
There is nothing more critical to you than living the life you are supposed to live.
Confusion sets in when you are uncertain. But I do not believe you are uncertain. Somewhere inside, you really do know what you’re supposed to do.
It is up to you to unlock that meaning. No one else can do it for you. No other town or city can either.
If you want to change your environment, look at the people around you. There is something you can do for each of them. It may be small. It may be doing nothing at all.
Do it today and again tomorrow.
This is how you will change.
What are you going to do for someone else this week to set this change into motion?